Contact Refusal / PA – Charlie McCready

It may start with what seems like innocent enough excuses: Uncle Bulgaria is over for the weekend and we’ve not seen him in years, so we’ll have to skip this weekend. And yet there’s no effort to make up your lost time. Maybe there’s a school rehearsal: they can’t miss it. And yet there’s not a reason given as to why they can’t do that from your house or a discussion about possible solutions. All the excuses mount up and it becomes obvious that everyone and everything else takes priority over your child spending time with you. If and when you get ‘given’ the time, it may well be, with all the excuses under the sun, sabotaged, shortened, or overshadowed.

Another issue that when ‘allowed’ time with your child, alienating tactics may include constant text messages or phone calls which make the child feel guilty, angry, upset. They might be told how much more fun they’d be having if they didn’t ‘have to’ be with you. The child will get the impression, loud and clear, that it’s a nuisance for them, and annoying for their ‘good’ parent whenever they spend time with the ‘bad’ parent, the one who is ruining everyone’s fun. Contact, even when indirect such as a phone call or a text message, can be even labelled ‘harassment’ in some cases.

Subliminal programming of a sort has been inflicted on the child, a form of emotional manipulation and psychological abuse. Subtly but most certainly, the child will realise that the alienating parent is delighted when the child ‘chooses’ not to spend time with the other parent. The child may even be rewarded for contact refusal. These patterns of contact refusal are the first signs that the child is being alienated.

Do any of these signs sound familiar to you?

If you face these challenges, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through all this myself, with over 20 years of experience, and I am now reunited with my children. I am here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Feel free to reach out to me anytime—I’m here to help.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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