Alienating Parents & the Damage Done

Parental alienation occurs when one parent, typically after separation or divorce, actively and deliberately attempts to distance the child from the other parent. It’s not uncommon for an alienating parent to have shown far less interest in the child’s life before separation, only to suddenly become intensely involved once the other parent is no longer in the picture. It can be even more so when they remarry.

The alienating parent may use manipulative tactics to undermine the relationship between the child and the other parent. This can involve making negative comments about the other parent, falsely accusing them of wrongdoing, or deliberately preventing the child from spending time with the other parent. The goal is often to erase the other parent’s influence from the child’s life, creating a sense of loyalty and dependence solely on the alienating parent. This behaviour is widely considered harmful to the child’s well-being, as it can lead to emotional distress, confusion, and strained relationships with both parents.

The alienated parent might wonder how alienating behaviours impact the relationship between the alienating parent and the alienated child (a convoluted sentence, but I want to be clear). Some (though not nearly enough yet) may view alienating behaviours as a form of psychological child abuse, especially given there are allegations without proof that the child is better off without one of their parents in their life. It may lead to legal consequences such as changes in custody arrangements or supervised visitation for the alienating parent. We do hear of these stories (again, they are few and far between) as the courts tend to take the lead from the ‘voice of the (indoctrinated/alienated) child’. But, also, and more generally, the alienating parent is not easy to live with. They are highly manipulative, and the child may come to realise this. Their love is conditional. After-all, this is a parent who requires the child to cut the other loved/loving parent out of their life. This is NOT loving behaviour. Deep down, the child knows even if they make excuses and align with this parent.

NB: A father can be a biological parent. A biological parent is someone who is genetically related to a child and participated in the child’s conception. Both the mother and father of a child are considered biological parents.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparenting

#coercivecontrol

#fathersrights

#mothersrights

#parentalalienation

Unknown's avatar

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Leave a comment