Mentioning ‘Parental Alienation’ – it’s like a can of worms
The best practice is not to tell an alienated child they have been alienated, which basically is to say they’ve been fooled, manipulated, coerced, lied to brainwashed, and abused. They won’t like being told this! They believe they have independent thoughts, they decided all on their own to hate, blame and reject you. Even when you had a previously loving relationship, their stories don’t stack up, they’ve not heard your point of view, and you hear them repeating lies and fabrications, don’t say the dreaded words: parental alienation. They will insist their beliefs were definitely not programmed into them by a favoured/aligned parent. Remember these behaviours and beliefs were, over a period of time, almost forced on them and they adopted them as a means of survival. Best to avoid this conversation until they grow up, until they come to you with questions because you’re actually a loving, sane, calm, happy parent. They are not stupid, and when they truly become independent thinkers, and de-programme, they will have questions one day.Please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post them there first, two to six each day. They’re there to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help.