Totally agree; I was no more than a “place holder “.
His reasons for marriage were not normal and masked until it was undeniable after 1 year but we had a child 🧒 and I had no resources for safety or money which gave him power for 21 years and 2 more children that were his property and leveraged to continue the abuse and hold him on high for his $$& connections .
Triangulation was constant , stability was zip ,acting as the all knowing, all seeing perfectionist to whom I’d never ever be enough for, much less equal .
And he set this standard, modeled this malignant character to our 3 sons ,who fear and deny the facts/truths.
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