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Kim Saeed; Outdated Narcissist Freud Information

The concept of narcissism as a defense mechanism is a sorely outdated theory that was first developed by psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud in 1914. He proposed that people use narcissism as a defense mechanism to protect themselves from feelings of inferiority, shame, and low self-esteem. Freud believed that people with narcissistic personality disorder have an excessive need for admiration and an inflated sense of their own importance (basic, vague).

Many of Freud’s theories were either proven wrong or received great criticism from his peers. Freud largely worked with people who were mentally ill. Further, his ideas, which were highly subjective, were born from his obsession with sex.

Here is a sampling of ideas from Sigmund Freud that have been proven false:

  1. The Oedipus Complex: Freud suggested that all boys went through a stage in which they had sexual desires for their mothers and wanted to kill their fathers. This was later disproven.
  2. Psychosexual Development: Freud proposed that our development is determined by the sexual desires of our childhood, but this has been disproven by research.
  3. Unconscious Desires: Freud believed that most of our behavior was determined by unconscious desires, but this has been disproven by research.
  4. Penis Envy: Freud suggested that girls had an unconscious desire to have a penis, which has been disproven.
  5. The Death Drive: Freud suggested that we have a drive towards death, but this has been disproven by research.

Yet, the field of mental health is founded largely on these archaic Freudian ideas, which are doing immense damage in the world and coddling abusive personalities.

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Narcissist are Snakes

Narcissists are snakes. Yes, we are comparing them to snakes. Why? Because no matter how many times they shed their skin, they are still the same creatures underneath. Narcissists are still going to be the same creatures who slink around scheming to destroy you. They are the same creatures who will only be out for themselves. They are what they are. There is no changing them.

Narcissist will never be a decent person – Kim Saeed

It’s gut-wrenching and simply shocking when you give the narcissist another chance to prove they’re trying to change, and then you’re hit with a sucker-punch so crippling, you can barely function for days on end.

You try to convince yourself that they’re just having a bad day or a bad week…maybe they’re struggling with things at work, so you try to be understanding as you deal with the emotional pain…alone.

Or, maybe you’re already out of the relationship and trying to “co-parent” with the narcissist. And, despite all the chaos and their last-minute attempts to go against the custody order, you hold out hope that maybe one day they’ll finally come to their senses and be a good, caring parent.

Maybe you’ve been stuck in between a rock and a hard place and needed their help and, miraculously, they came through for you, only for you to realize they did the nice thing so they could hold you hostage.

What does all of this mean?

It means NEVER believe the narcissist will be a decent person.

Don’t throw caution to the wind just because, in a brief moment, it feels like the two of you are friends and you want to give them the benefit of the doubt. This will backfire on you. Every time.

There are some basic rules you’ll want to follow while dealing with a narcissist. You can read them here:

https://bit.ly/HowtoDealwithaNarcissist

Never believe the narcissist will be a decent person. They won’t change for me, for you, or for anyone else.

They won’t change if you get cancer, if your pet dies, or if your parent is given a terminal diagnosis.

However, don’t internalize this as meaning you don’t deserve better or that you’re not worthy. Once you break free and become your own best advocate, life can be incredibly fulfilling. You deserve to be happy.