Narcissist will never be a decent person – Kim Saeed

It’s gut-wrenching and simply shocking when you give the narcissist another chance to prove they’re trying to change, and then you’re hit with a sucker-punch so crippling, you can barely function for days on end.

You try to convince yourself that they’re just having a bad day or a bad week…maybe they’re struggling with things at work, so you try to be understanding as you deal with the emotional pain…alone.

Or, maybe you’re already out of the relationship and trying to “co-parent” with the narcissist. And, despite all the chaos and their last-minute attempts to go against the custody order, you hold out hope that maybe one day they’ll finally come to their senses and be a good, caring parent.

Maybe you’ve been stuck in between a rock and a hard place and needed their help and, miraculously, they came through for you, only for you to realize they did the nice thing so they could hold you hostage.

What does all of this mean?

It means NEVER believe the narcissist will be a decent person.

Don’t throw caution to the wind just because, in a brief moment, it feels like the two of you are friends and you want to give them the benefit of the doubt. This will backfire on you. Every time.

There are some basic rules you’ll want to follow while dealing with a narcissist. You can read them here:

https://bit.ly/HowtoDealwithaNarcissist

Never believe the narcissist will be a decent person. They won’t change for me, for you, or for anyone else.

They won’t change if you get cancer, if your pet dies, or if your parent is given a terminal diagnosis.

However, don’t internalize this as meaning you don’t deserve better or that you’re not worthy. Once you break free and become your own best advocate, life can be incredibly fulfilling. You deserve to be happy.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited