Be safe to woman

Psychology shows that when a woman endures prolonged stress and instability, her body adapts to survival mode—often without her even realizing it until she’s completely exhausted. Mentally, emotionally, physically. She remains on high alert, tense and guarded, always bracing for the next disruption. Even in calm moments, relaxation feels foreign… unsafe. Not because she’s ‘dramatic’ or ‘too sensitive,’ but because her nervous system has forgotten what true safety feels like.
Years of disappointment. Years of bearing burdens alone. Years of smiling while shattered inside. It changes you. You stop trusting quiet days. You question consistency. Kindness makes you wary because you’ve learned that love often comes with strings, silence means punishment, and peace can shatter without warning.
So no—she isn’t ‘moody’ or ‘too much.’ She isn’t overreacting. Her body is stuck in fight-or-flight. Her heart is weary. Her spirit is exhausted from years of self-protection, to the point where being held—truly held, without fear—feels like a distant memory.
If you want to love a woman like this? Be safe. Be steady. Be soft. Don’t give her more reasons to question her worth. Don’t punish her for needing comfort. Don’t make her believe her pain makes her unlovable. She doesn’t need perfection—she needs patience.
Healing doesn’t begin when life gets quiet. It begins when life stays safe.
And too many women are still waiting for that safety to arrive.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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