The Alienator – Charlie McCready

At the core of parental alienation lies a troubling truth: the alienating parent often harbours a profound animosity towards their ex-partner that eclipses their love for their child. This dynamic can be unsettling, as it reveals how personal vendettas can overshadow the fundamental duty of nurturing a child’s emotional and psychological well-being.

An alienator typically views their ex as an adversary rather than a co-parent. This perspective often stems from unresolved conflicts, feelings of betrayal, or even jealousy. Rather than seeking to heal or move forward, they channel that pain and perceived wrongs into a relentless campaign against their former partner. Their fixation on undermining the other parent can manifest in various ways—through manipulative narratives, distorted truths, and emotional coercion, all designed to create distance between the child and the targeted parent.

This hatred can be so consuming that it clouds the alienator’s ability to see the child’s needs clearly. They may project their bitterness onto the child, expecting them to take sides in a conflict that has little to do with the child’s own feelings or experiences. In doing so, the alienator denies their child the love and support they desperately need from both parents. The alienating parent may profess love for their child, but it is conditional and subject to the child’s allegiance to them and their distorted worldview.

The impact on the child can be profound and damaging. As the alienator fosters feelings of fear, resentment, and distrust towards the other parent, they may inadvertently instil in the child a skewed understanding of relationships. They may be led to believe that expressing affection for the targeted parent is a betrayal of their ‘favoured’ parent, reinforcing a toxic dynamic that prioritises control over emotional honesty.

Ultimately in their obsessive pursuit of revenge or validation, alienators are willing to sacrifice their child’s mental health and happiness. Recognising this truth is crucial for understanding the dynamics of parental alienation. It highlights the urgent need for intervention, support, and education for both parents and professionals.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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