I have long been over the connection with X and certainly over my abandonment issues . In discussing this passionately due to the varied legal/business and psychological aspects, I guess others could infer that I am still connected to X .
That’s so not true
The Final Separation between partners after a long relationship is difficult, not just emotionally but also physiologically.
Throughout the relationship, even one with problems, both individuals activate neural networks that produce chemical neurotransmitters and peptides, giving their experiences a certain emotional tone and reinforcing their personalities.
The two become so accustomed to the relationship that, even when they decide to end it, they cannot immediately destroy the neural connections and chemical attachments between them.
After the breakup, memories of their experiences remind the body that it is now deprived of its usual chemical stimulation.
The pain of ending a relationship can be caused by the interruption of a neurological habit.
Considering the chemistry of emotional dependence, it’s no surprise that so many couples break up, reunite, and then repeat the cycle.
We may separate from others, but we remain chemically dependent on the emotional states generated by the relationship, at least for a period of time.
When we feel a certain attraction toward a partner, we are convinced that they are the right one for us.
However, most of the time, the person we are drawn to reflects the unresolved emotional wounds we carry.
Often, when we feel a strong attraction to someone, it’s not just hormones at play- we are intuitively drawn to partners because we subconsciously believe they will help us resolve our emotional issues, even ones we are unaware of.
The more abandoned we feel, the more we are attracted to people who tend to abandon those who care about them.
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