Grieving for children

There’s a tendency sometimes to keep busy, so we don’t have too much time to wallow -it just takes us down. We fill our lives with activity and people to crowd out our racing, raging, uncomprehending minds. We’re heartbroken. We trawl through the refuge of the past, what we have left – photos, memories, reminders. We do our best to live in the present (yes, it’s a gift, and we’re grateful, but ….). We had hoped for a future, and we still do hope for that future with the ones we love very much a part of it. Not apart. A part. Our child/ren are out there. We love them. We miss them. Re-imagining the future is hard, and we could never have imagined it this way. What the hell happened? Who knew about alienation before it happened to us? We can dine out on ‘thinking positive’, and we can pride ourselves on our hearty fortitude (on the good days), but it’s with a huge dollop of reality on the side that leaves a bad taste in the mouth. This experience is traumatic and it is not for the weak-hearted/minded. Our unconditional love for our child/ren cannot be taken from us. This is true. But for all the platitudes and ‘it’ll get easier in time’ messages we get from well-intentioned people (and nobody truly understands who doesn’t experience it, however many letters they have after their name), alienation from our child/ren is no walk in the park. It is the biggest, most monumental challenge because it’s embroiled with injustice and lies and manipulation, it’s a living bereavement, it’s psychological abuse, and we worry for our child who’s been enmeshed in the disordered pathology of the alienating parent. But we have no choice but to sit with it, to be strong, and to keep sending out love, near or far. Come what may. We are not letting this experience define us. We keep the faith, we keep loving, we get up and get on with it, and we don’t quit.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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