Tuesday Teachings
Boundaries are not mean, although they are often firm, clear, and direct. When you set a boundary on your family member’s flagrant, abusive, behavior, be prepared for them to level the playing field with an unwillingness to own their abuse and instead cast all blame your way.
If, or when, your family reacts with retaliation, and pose continual threats to your boundaries, this is clear statement that they have no respect for you. They will not take perspective on why you feel the need to set the boundary you are setting.
You tried. You set the boundary and gave them an opportunity to learn and to take a healthier course of action with you, and they refused. This is hurtful and frustrating, but at least their problematic character is clear. If someone in your family continually turns themselves into a person you have to heal from, you are allowed to no longer have them in your life.
Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
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