After recent business conversations , including meetings , I have decided no contact is a must …
TO US, LANGUAGE IS A TOOL OF COMMUNICATION….to a narc, language is a tool of deception, abuse, manipulation, and control. That’s why you have to listen carefully and decode what a narc says. (He or She)
Annie Kaszina says: “Narcissists win you with their – lying, falsely loving – words and then destroy you with their – abusive – words.
That doesn’t happen by chance. They are master manipulators. Whether they are academically bright or educationally challenged, they use language, quite deliberately, to make you fear and obey them.
Often they say that they are not good with language. They use that and other similar ploys because they know how easy it is to dupe you.
They know that you will be slow to believe who they truly are – not least because you don’t want to believe that people like that not only exist but share your home and your bed.
You have to listen to What a Narcissist says and get confident about translating it correctly so that you discern their true agenda.
Whatever they say to you is only ever about safeguarding their best interests at your expense.
When did you realize what the narcissist was saying was manipulation?
For me, the light bulb first went on when I saw the Narcissist planning what he would say to the couples’ counselor… and what a fabulous victim story that was.”

