Big Reveal / Revelations
In the drama and dysfunction communication is often indirect. There’s lots of “don’t ask don’t tell” going on.
Recent drama events will often be surrounded by deep denial.
Attempts to address these events…to try to resolve things? can be met with more dysfunctional behaviors as the parties involved cannot sit with their own discomfort.
Thus – they’ll likely not be responsive but rather become defensive, argumentative and in general turning the tables to make something wrong with you for trying to go there.
I’m other words?
More drama will ensue.
Instead of trying to convince them?
Let them have their drama.
Let them tell their stories about you.
Let them hold onto their idea that they were victimized by you, rather than abusive to you.
Once we stop trying to work things out with those who are unable to work things out?
Things sort of just start working out for us.