One of the reasons it’s so hard to accept the narcissist for who they are is believing they think the same way we do.
They repeat the script and we believe them.
Their script keeps the fantasy alive in our minds that they care, that we’re deeply connected to them, and that we have a special bond with them that no one understands.
Only…this is nothing more than a storyline we keep alive in our imagination (with the narcissist’s help, of course).
The truth is too painful, so we deny the reality that keeps playing out before us, even in the face of unquestionable proof.
We project our empathy and compassion onto them, falling prey to the idea that they’re just a hurt soul who is trying to live and survive like anyone else.
And all while you’re giving them second chances and the benefit of the doubt, they’re planning on ways to destroy you…it’s only a matter of time.
I promise you that if you’re dealing with a narcissist, they may pretend to be a decent person here and there, but you will be hit with the shock of their deceit…and probably sooner than later.
Which will later lead to crippling feelings of anger and revenge. You will be so consumed with hatred for them, you won’t be able to see straight.
You’ll be so obsessed with feelings of revenge, you won’t be able to function in everyday life.
How can I say this so confidently? Because not only do I hear it from my students and clients (every day), I experienced these feelings myself.
If you’re struggling to detach from the narcissist, to resist their hoovering, or are feeling fed up with yourself for the number of times you’ve forgiven them, chances are it’s because you’ve bought into one or more of their schemes.
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