Unfortunately, for me this apt dissertation
of a loving relationship has had a short
shelf life , or masked the non demonstrably
and yes , I ignored the ” red flags ” that
indicated his avoidance of intimacy , touch,
kissing , compliments and honest
vulnerability . I began to understand the
basic roots of this detachment ,
the rages that were sudden , and the lack
of desire to grow as an individual and as
parents , a couple , people …
And I withered …I lost my place … I was
disposed of . Donna no longer exists .
And the many losses , the gross amount of
of lies ….
Disproved , Accredited. Cycle Closed
I doubt marriage is in my future but love
is , and it’s gonna be trippin’!
When a man and a woman get married and get to have frequent sex, it is easy to neglect the little ways of affection and the focus becomes sex. “You are already giving each other sex. That is the furthest two people can go when it comes to physical connection, so why bother with lesser connections?” Some might think.
Some people get touched by their spouse only when sex is the agenda. This wasn’t the case when they were getting to know each other. Don’t be such a spouse. Even though now you can get unlimited and unrestricted sex from your spouse, don’t forget to do these little, innocent, warm things… ✍
1. Hugging your spouse. Something as simple as a hug.
2. Kissing your spouse on other places besides the lips such us the forehead, cheeks, fingers, back, neck.
3. Cuddling with your spouse.
4. Holding hands with your spouse even if just for a while.
5. Squeezing your spouse’s hand to show care, unity, love.
6. Studying your spouse’s body. Focusing on other areas besides penis, vagina, clit and nipples.
7. Complimenting your spouse beyond his/her sexuality.
8. Staying naked together, not because you want to have sex, but because you are comfortable with each other.
9. Sometimes eating from the same bowl/plate.
10. Looking out for each other.
11. Making time to have quality moments together.
12. Talking about feelings.
These little gestures show affection in a big way. No one is ever too grown to receive or give affection; so stop trying to act like you’re too grown for these little acts of affection if you want your marriage to be warm.
It is sad how when a man and woman are dating they treat each other so well as they look forward to marriage then when they get married they treat each other worse and more casual than they did when dating. Love should be progressive, not retrogressive. If your heart out of love led you to treat your spouse so well when you were dating, then your heart is not the problem; your pride is. You still have the same heart. A loving heart never grows old. You did it then, and if you want to, you can do it today.
Many think that the way to spice up their dull marriage is to have more sex. But actually, the way to do it is to go back to how you treated each other before marriage when marriage was a wonderful idea. Go back to doing those little acts of affection and you will see that you two will stop having just sex, you will start to make love… ✍
Intimacy + Affection + Pleasure = LOVE MAKING.
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