Narcissistic “ Splitting “

NARCISSISTS ENGAGE IN “SPLITTING”, EVEN WITH THEIR OWN CHILDREN…splitting means the narc sees things as all bad or all good, and other similar extremes.

With two or more children, they make one the “golden child” and the other the scapegoat.

The golden child’s burden is that they must live up to the narcissist’s “mini me” expectations, and is expected to reflect well on the narc. The expectations can be extremely burdensome for the golden child, and this carries out into adulthood. If the golden child fails to make the narc look good, or ever sees the narc for what they are, there’s hell to pay.

The scapegoat is the opposite. While the golden child is favored and can do no wrong, the scapegoat child is constantly blamed and shamed by the narcissist. While the golden child is given so many good things and treated like gold, the scapegoat treated as virtually worthless and a shame on the narcissist.

As a result, children often report very different childhood experiences. The scapegoat child will often report serious abuse and neglect, while the golden child may report that the narc was a nearly perfect parent, and may turn on the scapegoat child and be a flying monkey for the narc, and abuse the scapegoat child for speaking out about the abuse.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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