Holding peace

You are a rockstar! Whereas, an alienating parent engages in emotional abuse and manipulative tactics. Their actions can stem from deep-seated emotional issues, such as unresolved trauma, low self-esteem, or a need for control and power.

During a divorce or separation, this internal conflict is exacerbated, as the alienating parent may perceive the dissolution of the relationship as a personal attack or rejection. A narcissistic wound. They’re angry, resentful, and a desire for revenge can manifest in the weaponisation of your children as pawns or collateral to further their agenda. In their distorted worldview, they may view you as an enemy to be defeated rather than a co-parent to collaborate with.

Their controlling and manipulative behaviours are an attempt to exert dominance and influence. They may engage in character assassination, spreading false narratives and actively trying to alienate the child from you and anyone associated with you. Their actions can create an environment of fear, anxiety, and instability for everyone involved. An inability to separate their own emotional struggles from their role as a parent can lead to emotional neglect and confusion for the children who unfortunately get caught in the crossfire, feeling torn between their loyalty to both parents and manipulated into taking sides with the alienating parent.

You cannot change an alienator. You can only change how you deal with them. You must become the rock that protects yourself and your children and provides support to your family. There are plenty of tools and techniques to help you do this, creating emotional and mental strength and resilience.

If you are interested, check out my 9-step program. I also offer 1-2-1 coaching both of which guide you through the process of becoming a ROCK.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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