Be Careful who you date & marry

Be careful who you date and marry, for the biggest prison in the world is a home without peace. The person you choose to share your life with will profoundly impact your happiness, well-being, and overall life trajectory. It’s crucial to understand the importance of selecting a partner who adds to your peace, not one who drains it. This is especially true when dealing with narcissists, often referred to as toxic energy vampires, who are skilled at playing games and manipulating people.

Narcissists can be incredibly charming and persuasive at the beginning of a relationship. They are experts in creating an illusion of a perfect partner, often referred to as “love bombing.” During this phase, they will shower you with affection, compliments, and attention, making you feel exceptionally special and valued. This intense flattery and focus can be intoxicating, leading you to believe you’ve found someone extraordinary. However, this is a tactic to quickly win your trust and devotion.

Once they have secured your affection, narcissists often begin to shift their behavior subtly. They may start to devalue you through criticism, manipulation, and control, all while maintaining a facade of charm and concern. This gradual shift can be confusing and disorienting, leaving you questioning your own perceptions and feelings. Narcissists are skilled at gaslighting, a manipulative tactic designed to make you doubt your reality and become increasingly dependent on their approval and validation.

In relationships with narcissists, the highs and lows can be extreme. They might alternate between periods of affection and validation and periods of coldness and criticism. This cycle creates a rollercoaster of emotions, keeping you off balance and focused on regaining their approval. This dynamic is emotionally exhausting and can lead to a significant loss of self-esteem and self-worth over time.

A home with a narcissist is often filled with tension and conflict. Narcissists thrive on control and dominance, frequently disregarding your needs and feelings. Their inability to empathize with others can lead to a lack of genuine connection and mutual respect. Living in such an environment can feel like a constant battle, draining your energy and undermining your peace and happiness.

It’s essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior early in a relationship to protect your well-being. Look for red flags such as excessive self-centeredness, a lack of empathy, a need for constant admiration, and a tendency to manipulate and control. Trust your instincts and prioritize your peace and happiness. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial when dealing with potential narcissists.

In summary, be careful who you date and marry because the biggest prison in the world is a home without peace. Narcissists, or toxic energy vampires, are adept at playing games and manipulating people to secure their own needs and desires. By understanding their tactics and remaining vigilant, you can protect yourself from entering a relationship that drains your energy and undermines your peace. Your home should be a sanctuary of love, respect, and tranquility, not a battleground for dominance and control. Choose wisely, and prioritize your peace above all else.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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