Pushing people to break agreements or abandon their boundaries for us is not only disrespectful, but an invitation from the wounded self into codependency.
At its root, this is what codependency is, a dance of two wounded souls trying to find a way to get their earlier needs met.
It’s a repetition of the original loss.
The loss of the love that wasn’t available.
It’s the wound that we have so deeply identified with that it has calcified as identity and runs the show.
Our liberation won’t come from finally winning the dance of codependency, but from grieving that we were not loved the way we needed to be.
It will come from grieving that no matter how good we were (are), no matter how much we have healed…that love we crave to be met with still couldn’t be there and it didn’t have anything to do with us.
Grieving the roots of these patterns is what liberates us….not enslaving people into our patterns so that we can “win” what the ego thinks it wants, or finally be “chosen.”
The sky weather is pretty persistent right now that we clean up this age old tension between self and other, separation and union, wound and medicine, codependency vs. interdependent, mature love.
Chiron in Aries asks us to self-actualize away from identification with the wound, but, rather, to alchemize the wound.
Instead of perpetual healing of the wound, to see the wound as the space of our own, inherent creative potential to generate something beautiful from that which cannot be healed.
What we create from that place IS the healing salve we are meant to offer the world.
The sidereal Chiron in Pisces might have us questioning what we can trust, where we can put our faith and what structures or boundaries we need so that we can manage not losing ourselves in the great vastness of being.
What can we trust within ourselves? Others? Life?
In between these two points, is the constellation of Cetus, the Whale, who governs the principle of consecration.
With Chiron here, we might feel a little stuck around being able to consecrate ourselves fully in devotion the higher path of our soul.
We might mistakenly be anointing our wounding and acting from it, placing more faith in the familiarity of codependent patterns, rather than the unknown of ego death from allowing the wound to be transformed into its medicine form.
With the New Moon in Taurus, may we allow ourselves to feel so held in the arms of the earth so that we can finally relax, let go and and rest so that deeper layer of grief we’ve been holding on so tightly can finally release its hold on us.
May we ground the murkiness, release the need to “know,” and let the wisdom of the mystery alive in the body show us what we most need right now to feel safe to come home to the union living within our own hearts.
The ultimate sanctuary worthy of our most devoted consecration.
✍️ Dr. Mia Hetényi
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