Projection – Charlie Mc Cready

His last sentence..

Projection is a defence mechanism described in psychoanalytic theory where people unconsciously attribute their own undesirable traits, emotions, or impulses to others. In the case of alienating parents, this defence mechanism operates in the context of their relationship with the other parent, usually in the context of a divorce or separation.

When an alienating parent engages in projection, they project their own negative feelings, beliefs, or traits onto the other parent without acknowledging or addressing these aspects within themselves. For example, an alienating parent who harbours feelings of anger, resentment, or inadequacy may project these emotions onto the other parent, accusing them of being angry, hostile, or unfit as a parent. By projecting their own negative traits onto the other parent, the alienating parent seeks to deflect responsibility for their own emotions and behaviours while simultaneously vilifying the other parent.

This projection can contribute to the erosion of the child’s relationship with the targeted parent, as the child may internalise the negative perceptions projected onto the targeted parent by the alienating parent. Additionally, it can perpetuate a cycle of conflict and animosity between the parents, further complicating efforts to co-parent effectively and amicably.

Addressing the phenomenon of alienating parents projection requires a multifaceted approach, and it would ideally include therapy for the alienating parent so they could understand what they are doing, and the harm caused to, not only the other parent (which is probably their intention) but also their child. Unfortunately, as they project and not believe themselves to be the problem, they typically do not seek out this help. And tragically, the legal and health professionals don’t often enough recognise this behaviour so that therapeutic interventions aimed at facilitating healthy communication and co-parenting dynamics might be put in place. As I often repeat, this has to change, and ‘parental alienation’ needs to be recognised as a mental health crisis that causes spousal and child psychological abuse. It is a non-gendered, and global issue, and projection is just one of many alienating behaviours which should be identified.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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