We are not there yet : Your Child Really Loves You

I know what you are thinking…

My alienated child hates me.
No true, your child is being brainwashed to reject you.
Your child really loves you.

Maybe I wasn’t a good parent.
Not true, you were and are an awesome parent- no doubts.

My child is going to forget all the good times we had.
Not true. Your child remembers everything and wants to have you back in their life. They can’t right now; they are trying to survive.

My child talks badly about me to their friends.
Believe it or not- they don’t. They praise you and sometimes brag about you.

My child will never come back to me.
A bond between a biological child and a parent is almost impossible to break. There is a very good chance that once they gain clarity on what happened to them, they will reach out to you.

My child is probably going to be screwed up for the rest of their life.
Not true. Alienated kids are survivors with incredible resilience. They know how to adapt, show allegiance and fight for what they believe.

I am never going to be happy unless my child is back in my life.
Oh, not true. While your child is gone, this is a wonderful opportunity for you to work on you and develop positive self esteem. This is your time to be happy despite your pain. Make friends, meditate, pray, take long walks… Get ready…So when they return, they can say- “ Wow, my Mom/Dad is sooo awesome!”

You are beautiful, unique and special❤️

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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