I was aware of this possibility 3 months into marriage .
I had no idea how extensive it was , given his stories were attributed to friends …
When I was in the throes of psychiatric help, a younger sibling told me of intimacy with him. He excused himself saying her body reminded him of mine before our sons .
He claimed to be glad that she told me .
I have reason to believe that relationship went deeper than the attempt to seduce her as she claimed , for varied reasons including competition and envy .
I no longer allow that energy or her distortion of my every word or manipulation that creates the illusion that she takes my thoughts twisting them into her feelings/ ideas etc
Lately she has tried to blasphemy me in my life style and backed the distortions of a person in crisis , which allowed me to review 4 decades of secrets and lies .
She said my years of psychiatric abuse were too painful, knowing not what to do , she did nothing