Self-abandonment never leads to a positive outcome.
Not only does it teach people that they matter more than you do, it teaches your subconscious mind and wounded inner child that, as well.
Self-abandonment can look different for each individual, but here are some common examples:
- Caving after that 11th hoover when you know how things will turn out
- Modifying your own family dynamics to cater to someone you barely know
- Believing someone when they say they’ll do better and be better when they’ve already proven to you that they’re a liar
- Doing that uncomfortable thing in the bedroom and instead of securing the person you did it for, you learn it was all in vain
- Canceling plans with friends and family for a flaky person who’s already bailed on you numerous times
- Saying you like something when you don’t
- Forgiving someone over and over after they’ve already shown you they don’t deserve forgiveness
- You constantly give more than you receive
- You repeatedly try to control a person or an outcome and give away all your energy and time in the process
- You try to raise an adult when you already have minor children in the home
- You constantly ignore your intuition or internal GPS
Healthy relationships don’t require you or ask you to abandon yourself. If you feel like this is something you need to do, it’s time to re-analyze your relationships and level of self-love.
Always thinking of you. Xo