GreatCosmicMothersUnite

Hopelessness is not a place I hang out in over long .

My offering this night is of progress …

14 generations of family karma of a negative manner

will be compacted , reduced , transformed by light.

As a Nona , I prayed for a granddaughter under

construction , after 3 grandsons who I have not been

allowed to know, in promise of her world being better.

In supporting her, I knew many would be positively

affected , and in the On/Off of my allowance in her life

an awareness of fragility with her parents, I

continue as the projected adversary . Any despair

was rewarded by guidance that assures my

heart and soul that she will have an easier path..

The targeted 18 years of transforming our world , has

16 years left.

As a Leap Year child , who acknowledged

a quantum Leap 11/23 , a mother load of change awaits .

Compassion is safe harbor , Change is here ..In Harper’s

life time in her generation Thy Will Be Done .

A generation who owns the truth, demands the truth

lovingly supported and guided , always .

“Planting seeds” , always …even more reason to Hope❤️

I am expecting and receiving many miracles . Light

is overtaking shadow ..peace is within grasp..

I am ok with my physical not being around , though

I sense I will be to witness the acceptance of Heaven

on Earth , as each cell in my body rejoices .

Having stored limitless years of research , many

lifetimes of experience , this old soul will present

Hope to all those family who grieve deeply in the

sacredness of a magical gifted time, I offer you

solid facts that should lift your spirit higher .

I rejoice that after far too many adversities , a 20 year

cycle , in this 1998-2018 insanity and adversity

that deserves liberation via 3 constants ..

The Sun

The Moon

The Truth

Much has converged to thwart my efforts , delays

that depleted my physical ..Shattered fragments have

lovingly been redefined , remodeled , over and over

I return to being a soldier of love .. I come in peace

I will be heard , I will be supported ..far too many

cannot … I am honored that I am abled to do so.

Rejoicing this night , I offer a gift of music …

Tomorrow substantive , offerings …unless yet another

human prevails that preempts me… rest assured I will

do all I can to aide in a return to love.

1st Day Of Christmas – Hope

An incredible moving company in California helps victims of domestic violence by moving their belongings at no charge. After starting the company with his brother 18 years ago, owner Aaron Steed was at first surprised by the calls: “I’d periodically get calls from someone — usually a woman — fleeing an abusive relationship. There were a lot of intense moments and crying… I remember the conversations pretty vividly and feeling a tremendous amount of panic and sadness. Handling those phone calls made it very real very quick. As the jobs went on, we realized we were potentially saving lives.” After recognizing the scale of the need and unwilling to take money from people in such distress, the brothers decided to make free moving services for people fleeing violent situations a company policy.

The company, Meathead Movers, primarily employs student athletes and works with local domestic violence shelters to ensure that all movers are trained to handle the tense situations they may encounter during a move. One mover, AJ Clarey, described helping a woman move from the same San Luis Obispo County town where he grew up: “That hit home for me. The shelter she was working with contacted us and we discreetly set up the move. When we showed up, she had everything packed. We moved her items from one side of the county across to the other. When we finished, she was literally in tears. Without our help she wouldn’t have been able to pay to get her stuff moved. We got her into a safe place with her children.”

Such experiences, Steed believes, are important for his young employees and their understanding of domestic violence. “As I get older, I can’t help but really value and appreciate more and more the tone this sets for my employees who are involved in actually moving these victims,” he reflects. “I can’t help but think and hope that it changes their perception of themselves and their ability to have a major impact to do something that can really help someone in need.”

As for the survivors themselves, Meathead Movers’ rapid and discreet service has been invaluable. “They’re wonderful, sensitive, caring and enthusiastic,” says Kathleen Buczko, executive director of Good Shepherd Shelter, a refuge for homeless women and children in Los Angeles. “They help turn something that had been associated with something that was so incredibly traumatic into a celebration of moving to their new homes and to a new life.”

For those who would like to help, the company asks supporters to donate to domestic violence shelters in their own communities — you can find listings for US shelters (https://www.domesticshelters.org/) and for shelters around the world (http://www.hotpeachpages.net/). They also encourage other business owners to get involved in helping end domestic violence at http://www.meatheadmovers.com/pledge/

To read more about the compassionate movers of Meathead Movers in the LA Times, visit http://lat.ms/1TZdG9l

For stories of girls and women experiencing and overcoming abuse and violence in their lives — which offer a helpful way to talk to young people about the widespread problem of violence against women — visit our “Abuse & Violence” book section at amgrl.co/1lQzaJG

To help your Mighty Girl learn how to build supportive, mutually respectful relationships, there is an excellent guide that provides foundational advice on approaching relationships in a healthy manner, “A Smart Girl’s Guide to Boys,” for girls 9 to 13 http://www.amightygirl.com/a-smart-girl-s-guide-to-boys

For LQBTQ youth seeking relationship guidance, we recommend “Queer” for ages 13 and up at http://www.amightygirl.com/queer

An outstanding resource for older teens and adults about the early warning signs of abusive relationships, myths about abusive personalities, and how to get help is “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” at http://amzn.to/1UfD7mU

If you’re a parent concerned that your daughter may be in an unhealthy relationship, check out the books “But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Relationships” (http://www.amightygirl.com/but-i-love-him) and “Saving Beauty From The Beast: How to Protect Your Daughter from an Unhealthy Relationship” (http://www.amightygirl.com/saving-beauty-from-the-beast).

For books for children and teens about the power of kindness to change the world, visit our “Kindness & Compassion” section at http://amgrl.co/1JIHLCr

Included in the selection are two of our favorite books focused on fostering children’s compassion for others by giving them a visual way to think about kindness: “Have You Filled a Bucket Today: A Guide to Daily Happiness for Kids” for ages 4 to 8 (http://www.amightygirl.com/have-you-filled-a-bucket-today) and its sequel “Growing Up With A Bucket Full Of Happiness” for ages 9 to 12 (http://www.amightygirl.com/growing-up-with-a-bucket-full-of-happiness).

I want to take a moment to introduce a new line into discussion – there is a historical context to what we are doing.

I am a single lone psychologist working all by myself from Southern California, and I am having a significant impact on a 40-year-long, impossible-to-solve pathology in the family court system.

Love me or hate me, I’m having impact.

How? How is one lone person accomplishing what has eluded all other professionals for 40 years – a solution.

How am I doing this?

The “how” of AB-PA and Dr. Childress is going to generate a lot of professional discussion and analysis once the dust settles. This interest will be in the field of Internet psychology.

First, AB-PA, by itself is going to generate a ton of research beginning in about five years and then over the following decade, once the paradigm shifts. We’ll be hoping to spearhead this research at two university-based training sites for court-involved clinical psychology. This will be using AB-PA as the foundation for research (not “proving” AB-PA; AB-PA doesn’t need “proving” – I’ll discuss this elsewhere).

But even more intriguing for PsyD doctoral student dissertations will be an analysis of HOW I accomplished what I did, and on the analysis of the pathogen’s actions and revealed structure. I predict at least one entire dissertation on: “AB-PA and the Gardnerian PAS Experts” and a second entire dissertation on “The Gardnerian Pathogen”.

The flying monkey phenomenon (with extensions into malignant narcissism and gang stalking) offers a third entire dissertation. This would be an excellent dissertation – 100% publishable – use personality disorder journals for submission, framing the flying monkey ally phenomenon as a feature of narcissistic-borderline pathology (unresolved trauma; vicarious resolution of childhood trauma).

Everything we are doing is documented. All of my blogs, the Gardnerian blogs, these Facebook posts, everything has a documented record, perfect for dissertation research – data without the hassle of running subjects; just sit at home and collect “archival data” from the Internet, perfect for a student.

One of the more interesting structures for a dissertation question is whether the Gardnerian PAS model was in (unconscious-preconscious) collusion with the pathogen. That’s an interesting premise question – was Gardner an unconscious ally of the pathogen or its adversary? – Was he used or abused?

If this is a trans-generational transmission of a sex abuse incest pathogen (as Dr. Childress proposes), it’s intriguing that Gardner emphasized the false allegations of sex abuse (that generated substantial controversy) and then compounded the controversy by making very inappropriate and incorrect statements about child motivations for incest and sexual abuse. Why did Gardner overlook the narcissistic-domestic violence variant of the pathology of the abusive husband and victimized wife?

The psychology question is, why was Gardner focused on the sex abuse component? Perhaps because of his own unresolved family of origin “mommy issues” that were finding display in his focus. He was Freudian from what I hear, so all sorts of Oedipal stuff becomes relevant. Absence of frontal lobe executive function systems for logical reasoning… clearly he has the pathogen. An interesting dissertation: “Gardner: An Unconscious Ally or Failed Adversary?”

That sort of analysis would look at how the Gardner PAS model disabled actual knowledge (attachment – family systems therapy – trauma – personality pathology) from reaching your families, and on how no one was motivated to seek an established definition for the pathology.

This type of dissertation research will look at specific people who should have known – but didn’t. Why not? Why did no one make the effort?

So there will be one level of analysis as to whether Gardner himself was unconsciously used by the pathogen (maybe; there are arguments on both sides), and then a second level of argument as to whether his followers, the “PAS experts,” were used by the pathogen (yes).

The central line for this type of dissertation will be on the “sides” created by the splitting pathology (narcissistic-borderline pathology) into the “opposing sides” of professional psychology Gardner vs non-Gardner; and on how this was a false (fabricated) argument because neither one actually solves the pathology, they just remain in eternal circular conflict and failure to solve.

If professional psychology doesn’t go to Gardner, then Bowlby-Minuchin-Beck – established psychology – fully solves the pathology. Gardner’s PAS prevented (and prevents) solution by diverting psychology AWAY from established knowledge – Bowlby-Minuchin-Beck – which will fully solve the pathology – into a completely inadequate model for pathology.

I don’t expect these types of dissertations until after I’m dead, but they’re easy enough to do. Blogs offer great written material for analysis, Facebook leaves a documentation trail.

I have two audiences for all of my Internet writing; current people and future dissertations. I fully expect all professional people to be subjected to the full 20-20 hindsight critique of professional psychology once this is solved and the dust settles. APA that includes you. Mercer, that includes you. Woodall, Bernet, that includes you.

How are you going to be seen in future dissertations and in the hindsight of history? That becomes a consideration. And history will remember you by name as a feature of the pathology. I imagine there will be a whole section of a dissertation describing the failure of the PASG to act, and the role of Bill Bernet in that. They’ll look at all the discussion of AB-PA in the PASG and compare it to my blogs asking for help.

Everything and everyone – is going to be open for scrutiny and critique from the cold retrospective hindsight of history.

There is going to be a lot of historical attention paid to what we are doing right now, and all of our decisions will be subjected to intense scrutiny from the 20-20 vision of hindsight – Karen Woodall’s statements (and shifting positions across time), Bill Bernet’s decisions to reject AB-PA (the established knowledge of professional psychology), the minor’s counsel documented record of attack, and the APA’s complicity in the abuse of parents and children by the rampant and unchecked ignorance and incompetence of forensic psychology.

Everything is documented.

I love the Internet. Did you know my initial expertise was in Internet psychology? That was my dissertation – Internet Psychology.

Early in my doctoral career I was an invited presenter at a World Health Organization conference in Munich on Internet Psychology, and I was an invited presenter regarding Internet Psychology at a professional working group convened by the American Academy for the Advancement of Science in Washington, DC . Expenses paid – not like a convention presentation.

I’m using that knowledge about Internet psychology. That’s going to be another wonderful dissertation for some doctoral student, how Dr. Childress used the Internet to create change in forensic psychology and the family court system. My suggestion to the student is to organize by type of media – online video — website – blog – Facebook.

Then there’s my personal journal article writing. I haven’t started writing my articles yet. I’ve been too busy getting the solution in place that my time was better spent on things other than journal articles. That’s changing.

In 2019, most everything is in place now, so my writing will take a higher priority. I’ll start with an ethics journal article, then a trauma article and a psychoanalytic article. So my personal writing for journals will start to pick up starting in 2019 and continuing through 2025.

So far, none of this has been Dr. Childress. AB-PA is Bowlby-Minuchin-Beck.

I anticipate writing my Dr. Childress stuff beginning in about 2022. It’ll be on the trauma pathogen and the “matrix of abuse” created in forensic psychology. That is going to be an interesting book. It’ll be 100% Dr. Childress, unlike everything up till now which has been 0% Dr. C. But I’ve got a lot to write before that, all my 2019 stuff – the 2020 stuff will be really good; that’s when I anticipate I’ll be able to open the psychoanalytic stuff (that will be some great-great stuff).

So pathogen allies – be aware. Everything you do is documented and everything you do will be subjected to the scrutiny of history – you, by name – your personal role in either creating the solution or in obstructing solution, and your role in continuing the abuse of children and the emotional violence inflicted against their parents, or in ending it, will be known. You. By name.

The pathogen has three defenses, it hides, it seeks allies, and it attacks threats with great viciousness. We are going to expose the pathogen when it attacks – and we are going to expose it’s allies – by name. Or, more accurately… they will expose themselves – individually – by name.

They will expose themselves. For the Internet Psychology student doing your dissertation, I call them trap-memes that activate on attack (there’s a cute origin for that name, trap-meme that activates on attack. If you get your dissertation committee up before I’m dead, email me and I’ll tell you the origin for this term).

The cold light of history will offer a stern critique of everyone in this time of change and solution – and everything is documented. Everyone is on record – and have been on record.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Having had the experience of ” induced ” mania

which colorized my shadow world of Bipolar

though no one spoke of it …in all I was on my

own..

This video, this music brought , Grace, Beauty

and Glorious color and HOPE as I began to adapt

my world to a slower pace , it was not age that

slows me but awe that details be savored ..

Going fast , in too many ways and directions

resulted in blurred lines , drab colors , faded

composition .

My nurture is self focused tonight and gratefully

all has conspired in allowance of peace in da heart

as well as da house…

May your heart be lifted in joy , beauty and imagination.

https://youtu.be/ul1vtZfRX2g

Much Love ❤️ Much Peace & Many Blessings

Doña Luna

Part of the process of Domestic Abuse/Child Abuse Recovery is receiving

“magical”

gifts as is the offering described below by Craig Childress .

Shadow is strong , Light is much stronger .

Love Builds Bridges ❤️

On the second day of Christmas…

I just got Dorcy her Christmas present. Shhhh, don’t tell her.

It’s a book by a renowned family therapist, Cloe Madanes, entitled: Changing Relationships: Strategies for Therapists and Coaches.

Cloe Madanes just published it earlier in the year, in 2018. Cloe is my absolute all-time favorite family therapist. She was married to Jay Haley, the other top echelon family therapist I quote, and Cloe and Jay Haley and Salvador Minuchin all worked at the same Child Guidance Clinic in Philadelphia back in the 70s, and this particular clinic was one of the several focal points for the development of family therapy. Cloe Madanes is like top-of-the-top family therapist.

Salvador Minuchin is called “structural” family systems therapy, Jay Haley and Cloe Madanes are called “strategic” family systems therapy. Same basic principles, different approaches to intervention.

And in 2018 Cloe Madanes writes a book for therapists and coaches… and coaches… right there in the title. You see, in family systems therapy, we totally understand families. Cloe Madanes is not even aware of what’s happening in forensic psychology, and independently in her world of normal family therapy she is fully comfortable working in complete collaboration with family coaches.

So comfortable, that she writes a book of “Strategies for Therapists and Coaches” without even batting an eye – right there in the title. In family systems therapy, the collaboration of therapists and coaching is fully wonderful, fully recognized, and fully legitimate. Family systems therapists get it. We understand families, we understand solutions.

And remember, Cloe Madanes has no idea that your families or this pathology over here in “forensic psychology” even exists. Clinical psychology is prohibited from working with your children and families or we’ll lose our license, so Cloe and all of family therapy do not work with your families.

Don’t believe me? Read Cloe’s book and see if that resembles anything even remotely close to your experience of “family therapy” (or “reunification therapy”) – not even; uh-unh, not at all. Not even in the same universe. One’s family therapy and one’s just whatever-nonsense.

Family therapy is one of the four primary schools of psychotherapy, the others being psychoanalytic (Freud and the coach), humanistic-existential (self-actualization and hot tubs), and cognitive-behavioral therapy (lab rats and Learning Theory). All psychotherapy without exception should be from one of these four primary schools… otherwise, it’s not psychotherapy… it’s just whatever-nonsense.

Family therapy is the only school of psychotherapy that is for families, it is the type of psychotherapy that should be used with your families, but isn’t being used… because forensic psychology is not using any form of established or defined psychotherapy with your families.

Meanwhile, over in clinical psychology, the family therapy and family coach collaboration is so wonderful that the premiere family therapist, Cloe Madanes, writes a book in 2018 specifically for family therapists and coaches.

Cloe doesn’t even actually discuss the role of coaches and therapists… because it’s actually a non-issue and so ordinary that it’s not worth discussing. She mostly just begins sentences saying…

From Cloe Madanes: “In a strategic approach to coaching and to therapy, the most frequent intervention is the directive…” (p. 14).

From Cloe Madanes: “Reframing is a communication strategy broadly used by therapists and coaches. People typically present one view of the obstacles that trouble them. The coach/therapist transforms these obstacles into new difficulties that can be solved…” (p. 15),

Notice in these two examples how she just basically uses the two terms as the same: “a strategic approach to coaching and to therapy” – “used by therapists and coaches” – “the coach/therapist.” Basically the same. She even switches up which one goes first, for example giving primacy to the coach in the “coach/therapist” term she uses.

I completely agree with Cloe Madanes. When working with children and families – family therapist – family coach. It’s a collaborative approach to solution. Knowledge is knowledge.

This book by Cloe Madanes is one of my Christmas presents from me-to-myself from “my wife” (thanks honey, just what I wanted)… and now it’s becoming my Christmas present to Dorcy… but don’t tell her, I want it to be a surprise.

You know what… I’d like to make it my Christmas holiday present to all of you as well? I can’t actually buy you the book, but if you go to Amazon and buy it for yourself, like I did for me from “my wife,” then you could say it’s from Dr. C, so it’d be kind of like my present to you.

Madanes: Changing Relationships: Strategies for Therapists and Coaches.

https://www.amazon.com/Changing-Relationships-Strategies-Therapists-Coaches/dp/1934442593

I think you’ll find it amazingly fascinating what actual family therapy is. Wow. So – so different from what you guys have. I don’t even recognize the type of therapy your families are receiving – it’s nothing actually. Forensic psychology is just sort of flailing about, making stuff up and making a big mess of everything.

So you’d probably find a book describing real family therapy fascinating – this is what family therapy is – and I can’t think of a better book than one from a premiere family systems therapist, Cloe Madanes, written in 2018, it’s only 134 pages, and it’s simply busting at the brim with strategies for family therapy… and family coaching… she said so, right in the title of her book, for therapists and coaches.

Family therapy and family coaching… chocolate chip cookies and milk. Once we bring clinical psychology back to court-involved practice, we can start fixing things.

The world is changing.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Still being tested on past mistakes, lacks , grief will bring a host of

” side effects “…

Currently , 18 to 20 year retro being noted …as newer

much healthier options are availed and accepted , it’s not the ” dark

night of the soul ” of past …

Ghost are gone , welcomed spirits , messages

are received and welcome…Closure , thus peace is replacing the holes ,

the ” sentences ” without periods …and so today , I quietly celebrate .

As realizations of seed planting , or inner knowledge that when shared

were dismissed , bear fruits that combine with past , present and future

that creates philosophers , crones, wise humane humans …to whom

I owe so very much..My heart and soul are at peace , for though I live

and eat and sleep alone, I am not lonely …I no longer feel separation

and I have surrendered all my connections to Divine Spirit , and will

accept what is , what is to be.

Celebrate , your light is known to me , your shadow is known to me.

I hold out my hand , I will not hold on to you, I do hold you in my heart

I am Blessed in each soul that allows me to be, just be …

I am

DonaLuna , in love with all that is, and all that ever will be .

Circus, on The Moon, Bruce Hornsby

https://youtu.be/6y6c-0SUJFs

Well, we should know soon if Dr. Childress can no longer work with you and your families.

A minor’s counsel in a court case I testified in has submitted documents to the court alleging that I violated Forensic Psychology Guidelines (he’s coming after my license).

I did not violate any guidelines.

But truth does not stop the pathogen. I’ve known this was coming. A price that any clinical psychology professional must put up to even work with your children and families is our career.

Not a single clinical psychologist will work with any of your children and families. You are left with only one choice – the stone-cold stupidity and arrogance of forensic psychology.

If my license survives, we’ll see what happens.

Do you see?

It’s the red pill. You have been isolated in forensic psychology so you can be abused and the pathology can continue.

I am a sincere and honest clinical psychologist who is trying to help you and your children – and my license is put in risk because of it – actual risk starting today when I received the court filings of the minor’s counsel with the allegations that I violated Forensic Psychology Guidelines (because I did not do a $20,000 to $40,000 child custody evaluation – and instead did a structured limited-scope trauma-informed clinical psychology assessment – by court order – that found a confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

Clinical psychology will NOT work with your children and families as long as our license is put at risk. That is simply a fact.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857