Choosing Peace 🙏💯

Dating when she’s finally happy alone is a different game. Because now she’s not dating out of loneliness. She’s not dating because she’s bored or broken or trying to fill a void. She’s dating from a place of peace, of snacks, silence, and sweatpants and she’s questioning everything. Like, why would I trade this cozy little bubble of emotional stability for a man who makes me anxious, confused, or constantly second-guess myself? You think I’m gonna give up eating ice cream straight from the tub in a hoodie that smells like heaven, to babysit someone’s grown-up ego? Please. When a woman is happy alone, she’s no longer impressed by bare minimum energy. She’s not excited by good morning texts that lead nowhere. She’s not clapping for “I was just busy” excuses or breadcrumb attention. She’s calm. She’s healed. She’s protective of her space. And if the vibe feels like emotional turbulence wrapped in fake deep conversations and inconsistent affection – she’s out. Immediately. No dramatic exit. No three-hour argument. No begging him to try harder. Just a quiet “no thanks,” followed by Netflix, her favorite blanket, and absolutely zero anxiety. Because peace is expensive.
And she paid full price for it with tears, with lessons, with long nights of healing, and boundaries that were built like brick walls. She’s not giving that up just because someone has a nice smile and a playlist. She needs consistency, not chemistry. Effort, not empty promises. A man, not another project. So if dating feels like a job interview, a group project, or a therapy session she didn’t ask to lead, it’s a no. Because when a woman has learned to love her own company, any man who enters her life had better feel like a bonus, not a burden. She’s not lonely, she’s selective. She’s not bitter, she’s aware. And the moment you make her feel alone might be better than being with you, she’ll choose her peace. Every. Single. Time. So if you want her, come correct or don’t come at all. Because she’s already got snacks, silence, and sweatpants. And honestly, that’s a tough act to follow.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited