Love should feel safe , even in anger

The way a man handles his anger tells you everything you need to know about his emotional maturity, self-control, and most importantly, how deeply he respects you. See, anybody can love you when it’s easy. When things are sweet, when you’re laughing together, when everything’s going right. But how he treats you when he’s mad? That’s the real test. That’s the moment where all the fluff fades, and his truest self steps forward.
If his first instinct when he’s upset is to belittle you, ignore you, curse at you, bring up your insecurities, or give you silent treatment like he’s punishing you just for having a voice—that’s not love. That’s control. That’s ego. That’s a man who hasn’t learned how to love someone through conflict, only in the absence of it.
But a real man? Even at his worst, he’ll still handle you with care. Even if he’s angry, he’ll take a breath before he speaks. He’ll communicate instead of attack. He’ll say “I need a minute” instead of saying something he’ll regret. Because love doesn’t disappear when emotions run high. If anything, that’s when it’s supposed to show up stronger.
So don’t let “he was just mad” be the excuse that makes you ignore a pattern. Because one day it’s yelling… next it’s slamming doors… and eventually, it’s full-blown emotional damage that you’re left to unpack alone.
Love should feel safe—even in anger. If it doesn’t, it’s not the kind of love you deserve. 💔

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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