No peace within a Narcissist

Being in a relationship with a narcissist means there’s always a hidden world unfolding behind your back.

These individuals are deeply empty, constantly seeking stimulation from multiple sources just to get through life. Whether it’s indulging in addictions like drugs or pornography, engaging in emotional affairs, or chasing risky financial ventures that often lead to trouble, they thrive on chaos.

Flirting and stringing people along isn’t just for fun—it’s a strategy. They know they’ll eventually get bored of you or that you’ll start recognizing their games. Since being alone is unbearable for them, they’re always grooming new prospects, ensuring they have a backup supply of admiration and attention.

You’ll also notice their pattern of making promises—dangling them like bait to control you. If you don’t comply, they withdraw the promise. Sometimes, they deny ever making it, or they delay it until you give up. The truth? They never planned to keep it in the first place.

A narcissist has no real moral compass. Their only concern is satisfying themselves, no matter the cost.

When you finally walk away, they’ll circle back, pretending to check on you when, in reality, they’re just seeing if they still have access to you.

If you share a child, they’ll weaponize that child to manipulate and torment you. Unless you set firm legal boundaries or cut them off completely, they’ll continue their psychological warfare. Sadly, the child may be deeply affected—either molded into another narcissist or left emotionally shattered.

Most people don’t truly understand narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of leaving—until you realize the pain of staying is far worse.

Other times, you convince yourself you’re staying for the children—until you see that the narcissist is either shaping them into mini versions of themselves or breaking them entirely.

The only solution is to accept the truth: this person is incapable of peace. Their greatest skill is manipulation and keeping you confused.

Real life begins when you detach, reclaim your sense of self, and pursue genuine emotional stability.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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