Healing begins within : Focus on You đź™Śđź’Ż

Heal First.. Do your shadow work.. Focus on YOU. Then you will align with your person and your souls purpose. This goes for ALL of us, we all must heal from our traumas and work towards finding our higher self. 💙🙌✨️ 💫

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Men with a mother wound often leave women emotionally wrecked. Their inner conflict—craving love but rejecting it—pulls women in, only to push them away, leaving the women holding the weight of wounds they didn’t create and cannot heal.

These women end up feeling confused, inadequate, and deeply hurt, questioning what they could’ve done differently. But the truth is, they were never meant to “fix” him. His pain isn’t their responsibility, yet they pay the price: abandonment, rejection, and emotional chaos.

When you try to save him, you sacrifice yourself. You pour your love into a bottomless pit, hoping it will be enough. It never is. Because the healing he needs can only come from within—through his willingness to face his wounds, not through your endless efforts to soothe them.

The hardest truth to accept is this: You can love him deeply, but you cannot save him. Loving him at the expense of yourself isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And while you’re busy trying to save him, you’re losing the very woman he needs: the whole, healed version of you.

Ask yourself: Is your love for him worth losing yourself? Because the cost of staying isn’t just heartbreak—it’s forgetting your worth in the process. The only way forward is to release the belief that it’s your job to fix him and reclaim your power. Only then can you stop the cycle and heal from the wreckage he left behind.

Healing starts with you choosing yourself. Let him choose to heal—or not—but don’t carry his pain as your own.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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