Don’t force it

DON’T FORCE IT

Don’t force him to do anything, don’t pressure him to give you a place in his life, don’t condition him so that he is thoughtful….

Don’t beg him for caresses, or a furtive kiss, or hold your hand, don’t make him give you explanations when something has you dissatisfied.

Don’t insinuate how much you would like him to surprise you with a rose, don’t show him that it hurts that he doesn’t tell you how beautiful you look…

Don’t tell him to treat you with tact and affection, that he saddens you when he stops talking to you, when he hangs up the phone, when he is not gentlemanly, or to dedicate songs, or romantic lyrics to you…

Don’t commit him to supporting you in your difficult times, in your sorrows or when you have a broken heart, don’t ask him for a hug, much less let him know what you need.

Don’t die to hear him tell you: I love you, I need you, when he is no longer born to do it,

Do you know why?…

-Because whoever loves you sincerely, will not take care of you telling him anything, or asking him, or reminding him of the special dates.

The right man, the man who is for you, your exclusive, of your time and your life, the one that destiny has brought you for an indefinite time, will do all that and more to see you and make you happy if he really feels for you something real, unique… and never, but never will ever make you humble yourself and step on your dignity waiting for a “I love you”.

Whoever is the right piece, will fit into your soul and will choose you every day to love you infinitely, he will procure you, he will respect you, you will not need to do something extraordinary, he will love you for the fact of being you, with all your virtues and all the mistakes.

Alone, do not despair, do not open the door to anyone without deserving it, there is that great love, which will come and heal every wound and every tear, to turn it into an excessive cry of happiness… there you will know and say…

It was worth the wait.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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