Stay or go

“One of the most difficult goodbyes occurs when we love a person and, at the same time, we see that it is not possible to build a healthy relationship by their side. It is a moment of deep introspection, where the heart and mind are debating between staying or leaving.

Well, staying would imply continuing to wait for changes that do not arrive, tolerating actions that hurt us, accepting the slightest effort, losing ourselves in the attempt not to lose it. Sometimes, hope ties us to unsustainable situations. We cling to the idea that things will improve, but the reality is that it doesn’t always happen that way. Courage is in recognizing when it’s time to let go and let go.

We know that leaving will hurt; but it will be the route that will lead us to heal. The pain of farewell is inevitable, but it is also the first step towards healing. By moving away from what hurts us, we allow our wounds to heal. It is an act of self-love and self-care.

Instead, staying alone will continue to open the wound more and more. Remaining in a toxic or unsatisfactory relationship prolongs the suffering. Every day we spend in that situation, the wound deepens. It’s like we’re tearing an open wound over and over again.

Sometimes you choose to leave, not for lack of love for that person, but for your self-love that moves you to take care of yourself. And with love you leave. The decision to leave is not an act of lack of love for the other person, but an act of love for oneself. That is to say: “I love myself enough not to allow myself to continue suffering.” And in that self-love, we find the strength to say goodbye, be in PEACE and move forward.

Remember that every farewell is an opportunity to grow, learn and transform yourself. Sometimes, the greatest act of love is to let go of what no longer nourishes us, to give space to new experiences.”

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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