Aging & Family

I am 82 years old, 4 children, 11 grandchildren, 2 great-grandchildren and a 3 x 3 room in a nursing home where they left me stranded.

I no longer have my house or my beloved things, but I do have someone who fixes my room, makes my food and bed, takes my blood pressure and weighs me.

I no longer have the laughter of my grandchildren, seeing them grow, hug each other and fight; some come to see me every 15 days; others, every three or four months; others, never…

I no longer make croquettes, or deviled eggs, or minced meat curls, or knit, or crochet.

I still have a hobby of doing Sudoku that is somewhat entertaining.

I don’t know how long I will have left, but I must get used to this loneliness; I go to occupational therapy and help those who are worse off than me as much as I can, although I don’t want to get too close. They disappear frequently.

They say that life gets longer and longer.

So that?

When I’m alone, I can look at photos of my family and some souvenirs from home that I brought back.

And that’s all.

I hope that the next generations see that the family is formed to have a tomorrow (with the children) and give back to our parents the time they gave us when raising us.

“Taking care of someone who has already taken care of us is the greatest honor.”

Credits: Ofelia Rodriguez

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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