Imagine the child feeling guilty about enjoying their time spent with a loving/loved parent! This internal conflict arises after being exposed to an alienating parent’s relentless barrage of negativity about the other parent. The alienating parent, driven by narcissistic tendencies, manipulates the child into believing that the target parent is the source of all their pain and should be viewed as wholly ‘bad.’ They make it quite clear (verbally and also non-verbally) that if the child has any positive words or feelings about the ‘bad’ parent this is definitely not good. How confusing this is to a child! It’s psychological manipulation by a trusted parent, emotional abuse inflicted on a child. The alienating parent mirrors cultish indoctrination, damaging the attachment bonds the child will naturally have with their alienated parent (with both parents). This is why they succumb to the alienation. Not because they don’t love the other parent. Although hearing bad things about them contributes greatly, most of all their resistance is relentlessly worn down. It’s exhausting. It’s a survival mechanism to ‘cut off’ emotionally which is perhaps the only way they can do what is required of them by the ‘aligned’ parent. In this way, and only this way, their life is ‘easier’ and this is why the alienated child might often say or think the ‘target’ parent should do the same and just bow down and submit. To quote some alienated children, the target parent should just ‘suck it up’ or ‘apologise for everything’. It is not easy for them to live with a mentally disordered parent who is basically a bully – not every day, not always – the hot/cold moods are unpredictable. But the alienating parent is generally a highly volatile, cluster b personality (histrionic, borderline, narcissistic) and they put themselves above all others, including their own children.
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