When the fog starts to lift for an alienated child, a whole new level of hell emerges.
The alienating parent who has put so much time and effort into brainwashing, bullying, guilting and coercing their child to their side will hyper focus their wrath on the very child they claim to covet.
Like someone flipped a switch, they will withdraw their conditional love for good.
Equivalent to their ex partner, once they lose the control they so desperately desire, they will cast their child aside.
The perceived betrayal of their child seeing through the vail of delusion will draw out their real face, fangs and all.
The utter disbelief that “their” child would actually question their motives and methods is too much to take. After all, nobody can call out a narcissist. Nobody.
The flood of emotions for this child is immense. The grief and anger for all of the time lost with a parent they were convinced didn’t love them.
The disbelief that someone they love and trusted with their whole heart would take so much advantage of their naïve nature and blind loyalty to punish their other parent and use them as a vessel of vengeance.
Crushed by all the instances they were callously told their other parent “doesn’t love you”, or that their other parent “abandoned” them.
All of the efforts put into convincing them their other parent was dangerous.
All of the silent treatment when they didn’t comply and withdrawn “love” that washed them with severe anxiety when they thought they might lose the love of “the only parent who TRULY loves them”.
So begins phase two- when they nervously seek out their alienated parent they do so knowing they’ll lose the alienator.
After all, they’ve spent their childhood thinking one parent didn’t love them, and didn’t want them based solely on the word and actions of their alienating parent.
They were encouraged to reject that parent with impunity and they participated wholeheartedly all based on falsehoods.
In accepting their lost parent they will potentially spend the remainder of their life, again, without a parent.
It’s literally heartbreaking. I will never be able to wrap my head around being so cruel to your very heart and soul.
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