There is no love in highly dysfunctional family systems. The word love is thrown around quite a bit, but more as a manipulation than a genuine expression of emotion. If love were genuine, it could not be given and then abruptly taken away any time you disagree on something.
Love in a manipulative family is given when they have a need of their own they want you to meet. It is given to get something in return. As soon as they get what they want, they stop showing you their love until they need something again.
Their love is quickly replaced with ignoring you, punishing you, raging at you, or ostracizing you. This type of inconsistency is grueling to be on the other side of. The teaching to take is to not expect love from people who simply do not value it.
Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
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