Kim Saeed – Love isn’t always enough

“Love can conquer all” sounds nice, but it’s not always true. Especially if you’re in an abusive relationship.

For too long, we’ve been told by counselors, church elders, and well-meaning friends and family that we should hold space for people who aren’t showing up healthily.

They say you just need to love their wounded parts, and gradually, they will heal.

This narrative is a large part of why we’re now seeing such an uprise in toxic/abusive relationships. We’ve essentially nurtured abusive tendencies instead of the other way around.

When you are dealing with an abuser, perseverance and doing the work will not motivate them to see the extraordinary efforts you are making. They won’t have The Divine Epiphany, where the clouds part and the angels touch down, instilling keen insight into an abuser’s brain as to the damage they’re causing or what a chance for true love they’re throwing away.

This might happen in the movies, but not in real life.

Tools, resources, and guidance: https://tap.bio/@kim.saeed

Always thinking of you,

Kim 🕊️

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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