Ending all narcissistic research is close for me

Dissecting and investigating the narcissist’s behaviors and relationship crimes may help you feel validated and to understand that it’s not you…but you don’t want to waste years of your life in that space.

No one has ever cracked the narcissistic code and went on to have a healed relationship with a narcissist.⁠

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I feel so sorrowful for folks when I see they’ve been out of their toxic relationships for 5, 10, 15 years, or more and they are still lamenting the relationship. ⁠

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This tells me they are still internalizing the false blame for the relationship ending; that they are still seeking answers; that they are addicted to researching narcissism and staying stuck in heartbreak and trauma.⁠

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Toxic relationships cause a biochemical addiction (also known as peptide addiction). It’s no different from an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or smoking…or any type of addiction.⁠

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Just as a smoker may quit smoking yet get addicted to nicotine gum, a narcissistic abuse survivor can quit the narcissist, but become addicted to researching narcissism.⁠

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Case in point – a few times each year, I put out surveys asking my followers and email subscribers what kind of material they want me to publish. Most people say they want more healing material. So, I put out more healing material and it barely receives any views or engagement. But if I put out anything with the word “narcissist” in it, it is consumed like mad.⁠

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That’s not to say you shouldn’t be in support groups designed for forward movement and healing, but that the hours-a-day binge-watching YouTube videos and reading material on narcissism will keep you stuck indefinitely if you don’t put an expiration date on it. ⁠

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Part of recovery is learning to take care of your psyche. You will eventually need to stop consuming information about narcissists and turn toward information, treatment, and programs that will help you finally heal and move forward. ⁠

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Otherwise, you could be stuck for life. ⁠

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💪 If you’d like gentle guidance on taking your power back from the narcissist, join me and other wonderful thrivers in my therapist-approved resources. ⁠

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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