Normal Parenting vs Abuse &Alination

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The parental alienator is angry you left them and you’re no longer under their control, paying their bills or stroking their ego, and playing their victim/victor games, so you must be punished and they will use any means, especially the child/children because that will hurt you the most. Your pain is their pleasure because they are incredibly sad, low, unloving individuals who have deep wounds of their own and rather than fixing them, they blame others – it’s easier. Parental alienators mostly enjoy using coercive control, which is, basically a way of reducing, or totally denying a victim’s freedom, stripping away their sense of self. Parental Alienation with coercive control restricts, undermines or destroys (this is their end game) the child’s relationship with their other parent after family separation. They will manipulate a child (subtle use of language, lies, fears, bribes, threats) into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards the target parent and their extended family and friends.
The parental alienator convinces others the child speaks for her/himself, and this is similar to gaslighting behaviour seen in situations of domestic violence whereby the perpetrator convinces the victim it’s his/her fault. Also, the parental alienator triangulates others into believing the targeted parent is the cause of the children’s rejection. It is not normal behaviour for a child to totally reject a parent.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited