Narcissists lie about everything. They even lie about things they don’t “need” to lie about.
Everything about them is so utterly dishonest, that they lie without even saying anything. Their whole existence is based on smoke and mirrors.
Some of them turn lying into an Olympic sport just for the amusement they receive from duping people. They also do it because if they can perceive other people as stupid, then that makes them bright (by standards of the narcissist, of course).
And guess what? Catching them in a lie will not change anything. They will lie about covering up lies and lie more to cover up those lies.
Think of their lies as nesting boxes…a tiny lie inside of a small lie, inside of a medium lie, inside of a big lie, inside of a colossal lie. You get the idea.
Nor will they feel any remorse for their lies. For them, lying is no different than fixing a sandwich or putting gas in their car. Lies are just a means to an end. The only time you will hear them “apologize” for lying is when you prepare to leave them. Not because they are remorseful. It’s because they see the prospect of adult responsibilities staring them in the face.
In a relationship with a narcissist, it always happens the same way.
You discover they’re a pathological liar, usually after they have begun to devalue you. So, the fact that they can’t open their mouth without lying adds to the resentment that’s already building.
From my own experience, that resentment isn’t entirely directed toward the narcissist. We begin to resent ourselves. However, our egos don’t want this realization to rise to the surface of our conscious minds. Our egos tell us, “You can make this work. You can change him/her. All you need to do is be nice to them, and they will go back to the person you fell in love with.”
There’s only one problem with that. The person you fell in love with never existed. It was all a lie.
It’s probably the biggest lie we come to acknowledge about the narcissist.
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