If you do anything to demonstrate a willful desire to be independent and separate from toxic family members, you will be threatened financially, threatened with emotional abandonment, and saturated with accusations coming your way about what a horrible person you are.
This type of coercive treatment from your family will leave you feeling shocked and disgusted at how low your family members will go to keep you dependent upon them.
When you stand against their manipulation and all those who remain complicit to your abuse, you will undoubtedly go through of time of great loss and confusion. You will also feel a certain sense of liberation. Over time and with much healing, you will see that there was no real loss when you have regained the full rights to your life. The time of pain and confusion is what leads you to this wisdom.