Partnership : Triangles fail

Your partner should be your BEST FRIEND.
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No one takes presidence over your lover.
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Not mom. Not dad. Not the homies or the girls you’ve known since kindergarten.
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Your lover should be where you go in every season. Good days. Shit days. Sunshine or rain, your lover is HOME.
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I hear so many men talk shit on their “old lady”. How she’s this or that, nags and bitches about everything. I see women sipping martinis and cackling about him.
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Nothing is more sacred than the UNION between lovers.
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Nothing is more POWERFUL than that bond.
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NO ONE, regardless of blood or time known comes above your lover. EVER… the second you allow anyone in between you two is the second you crack your own foundation. The second you take your problems, concerns or frustrations to anyone outside of your UNION is the moment in time you alienate that trust and bond.
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I love my family and my friends, but my wife comes before all. My ideas and passions and fears and frustrations land with her above all else. Concerns with our connection don’t go to a Theripist or fellas on the golf course, they go to my queen.
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I made a vow when I committed to my queen. Fuck the paper and the “legality”, I gave my word to my queen that she would be my partner and my best friend. That I would give her everything regardless of its intensity, depth, or emotional charge.
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I have friends and family and acquaintances, all of whom I cherish and love, but my queen is my queen. She sits beside me and holds the keys to the kingdom. She knows my heart when it’s softened and when it rages. She gets ALL OF ME long before I give even a piece of me to anyone else.
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Friends, your partner is your greatest advocate. Your partner is the builder of the same foundation your home is being built on. Are you edifying and strengthening that foundation, or chipping away at the foundation? Because if the house falls, you both end up on the street.
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A union with a lover is STRENGTH. It is RADICAL POWER. Giving another human the keys isn’t weakness or scary, it’s liberating and divine.
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Fear comes from the unknown.
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Make your heart KNOWN. Make your union SACRED. Make your union the source of POWER that nothing can shake.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited