Narcissist

When a Narcissist alienates the partner from their children and continues the high conflict, malignant, vicious manipulation they are mentally ill .

**Narcissism isn’t a mental illness or a chemical imbalance — it’s a character disorder, a deeply ingrained personality structure that shapes how someone sees themselves and the world.** It’s not caused by low serotonin, and it’s not something a prescription or a therapy session can “cure.” You can’t teach someone to have empathy if they fundamentally lack the capacity for it. It’s not a skill they forgot — it’s something they’ve rejected entirely because empathy gets in the way of control, manipulation, and self-worship.

You can try reasoning with a narcissist. You can sit them down, pour your heart out, show them how much their actions have hurt you. You can explain over and over that lying, stealing, cheating, degrading others, and gaslighting are wrong. You might even believe that, with enough love, enough patience, enough chances, they’ll change. But they won’t — because they don’t see anything wrong with what they’re doing. In their eyes, they are always justified. Always the victim. Always right.

**Deception isn’t an occasional tactic — it’s a lifestyle.** They don’t just lie to others. They lie to themselves. They construct a false self and live inside it, hiding from shame, from accountability, from reality itself. That’s why any attempt to get through to them feels like you’re speaking to a wall.

Narcissists don’t change because their behavior serves them. They don’t want to heal — they want to maintain control. And your sanity, peace, and emotional health are often the price of trying to stay connected to someone who doesn’t even have the capacity to care.