To get along with a Narcissist

Here’s the problem: to get along with a narcissist, you have to take the blame for everything while also never making any mistakes. It’s a lose-lose situation that slowly erodes your sense of self. You become the scapegoat for every argument, every bad mood, every consequence of their toxic behavior. Even when they are clearly at fault, they twist reality so convincingly that you begin to question your own perception. Gaslighting becomes a regular part of your life. You start to apologize for things you didn’t do, just to keep the peace, just to avoid the emotional punishment that follows.

But at the same time, you’re expected to be perfect. Any mistake, no matter how small, becomes ammunition. They’ll use it to shame you, guilt you, or remind you of how “difficult” or “flawed” you are. Your achievements are minimized, your needs are dismissed, and your emotional boundaries are trampled. You’re walking on eggshells, managing their ego while ignoring your own pain.

This isn’t a relationship—it’s emotional servitude. Loving a narcissist means disappearing piece by piece, until you hardly recognize yourself. The harsh truth is: you can never win with a narcissist, because they need you to lose in order to feel powerful.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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