Parental alienation is the weapon of choice for vengeful exes—an underhanded, deliberate campaign of psychological abuse that they’ll never admit to, because doing so would be admitting to harming their children. They hide behind false claims and lies, painting themselves as the victim while turning their child’s vulnerability, confusion and innocence into a twisted allegiance built on deceit. It’s not just the other parent they’re erasing; it’s the child’s right to love and be loved by both parents.
And what’s truly infuriating is that too many people believe them. The system—the family courts, mental health professionals, schools, police, child services …. are too quick to swallow their story, turning a blind eye to the manipulation and betrayal happening right under their noses. The truth is; parental alienation is a hidden form of child abuse that rips families apart, leaving targeted parents feeling powerless and children suffering too, whether they realise it or not – many do later when they see the bigger picture, see through the lies and coercive control.
More previously alienated children are coming forward, which helps validate the experience that so many want to deny is real. Parental alienation (though it can be called many other things – an attachment disorder, pathogenic parenting, hostile aggressive parenting, intractable contact, narcissistic parenting, disordered parenting, malicious parent syndrome, psychological manipulation, emotional abuse, domestic partner abuse, child psychological abuse, spousal abuse, domestic violence, family bond obstruction or child alienation …) is real, and mothers and fathers inflict it and it is suffered too by children, mothers and fathers – and grandparents. All over the world. We need to be united on this.
It is slowly (too slowly) becoming more globally recognised as hugely damaging to millions of children and their parents. The scientific papers are definitely moving in the right direction for us, towards the identification and categorisation of alienating behaviours being intimate terrorism, family violence and child abuse. All denials of parental alienation are nothing more than an insult to those of us who experience it as a daily reality. Legal and mental health professionals need to get up to speed so they can identify alienating behaviours by the ‘aligned’ parent, spot the signs in the enmeshed/indoctrinated/terrorised child, deter it from continuing, and take fast action against it.
If you are going through parental alienation, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through it myself. Personally and professionally, I have over 20 years of experience. I am reunited with my children and here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Please feel free to reach out to me at any time.
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