Over the years, I’ve become alert (and impervious probably) to the language expressed in comments, such as when I can detect an alienating parent is in our midst, and they usually are quite aggressive in their assertion that they’re protecting their child from abuse. Often, it’s not hard to detect, because they might say something along the lines (polite version here …) ‘You don’t understand because you’re male’. I don’t even bother replying that I work alongside my partner who was an alienated mother (and step-mother, as I was an alienated step-father too). It’s not mothers vs fathers or vice versa though some do all they can to make it so, and this is incredibly unhelpful to all alienated parents, and grandparents and of course the children too.
Of course, protecting children from abuse is paramount, and there are instances where parents genuinely need to protect their children from abusive situations. But when the child is being kept from a non-abusive, loving, available parent with no justification whatsoever, alienating behaviours are themselves abusive. It’s important to distinguish between cases of abuse and situations where parental alienation is used as an excuse to maintain control. But if a parent thinks their ex is toxic, as one example here, that is not reason enough for them to wilfully limit, obstruct, or damage the relationship between their child and the other parent. ‘Toxicity’ is their opinion, not the child’s. The children should be free to enjoy the love of both parents. They should not be coerced into choosing one over the other to suit the alienating parent’s wishes/vendetta.
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