Trauma Bonds

While a trauma bond can be strong and challenging to break, it is not necessarily unbreakable. With time, understanding, and support, alienated children can break free from the coercive control and psychological abuse of parental alienation.⁠

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Trauma bonds form due to the conditioned response to an abusive and controlling parent creating a sense of dependency, attachment, and even loyalty. The alienating parent’s manipulation and exploitation of the child’s emotions may strengthen the bond.⁠

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The first step is for the alienated child to recognise and understand the dynamics of the trauma bond. This involves gaining insight into the tactics used by the alienating parent, the impact on their well-being, and the unjust nature of the enforced separation. Trauma bonds often involve a sense of diminished self-worth and distorted identity, but an alienated child can rebuild their self-esteem, establish a solid sense of self, and reclaim their autonomy and agency.⁠

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Healing from the trauma associated with parental alienation involves processing and addressing the emotional wounds inflicted by the alienating parent. Trauma-focused or cognitive-behavioural therapy can help a great deal. ⁠

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Establishing and enforcing healthy boundaries is essential for breaking free from the cycle of coercion and control. The child needs to develop a sense of self-protection and learn to set limits on manipulative behaviours or interactions.⁠

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Lastly, but most importantly, establishing or re-establishing a healthy and supportive relationship with the targeted parent is crucial in breaking the trauma bond. The child needs validation, understanding, and unconditional love from the parent they were alienated from, which can aid in healing.⁠

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Each individual’s healing journey is unique, and the outcome may vary but with the right resources and a commitment to healing, alienated children can break free from the trauma bond and rebuild their lives with healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self.⁠

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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