Charlie McCready- All is right in the end

I love this saying: Everything will be right in the end. If it is not right, it is not the end. It has been attributed to many, including Oscar Wilde, John Lennon, Paulo Coelho, and it featured in the film, ‘The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel’ based on a book by Deborah Moggach. ⁠

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Nobody’s life is ever 100% perfect. Life comes with challenges. Parental alienation is ‘up there’ as one of the most challenging. Alienation from our children because of the psychologically manipulative and malicious behaviours of the other parent, wilfully damaging the relationship of their child/ren with us, makes us feel helpless and heartbroken and all through it, we need to stay positive, hopeful and strong. So when I first heard this quote, in the film, I found it reassuring. It’s an uplifting film – set in an Indian retirement home. All the characters are seeking a better life in some way. Sonny Kapoor (Dev Patel) runs his family’s hotel, which is centuries-old and ramshackle but charming. Despite his challenges, he stays positive, believing all will be okay in the end. ⁠

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Interestingly, one of the story’s characters in a loveless marriage to an absolute harridan (switch this for alienating parent/narcissist) finally breaks and says: “Do you have any idea what a terrible person you have become? All you give out is this endless negativity, a refusal to see any kind of light and joy, even when it’s staring you in the face, and a desperate need to squash any sign of happiness in me or …. anyone else. It’s a wonder that I don’t fling myself at the first kind word or gesture that comes my way, but I don’t … out of some sense of dried-up loyalty and respect, neither of which I ever bloody get in return.” His wife totally ignores his outburst, changing the subject. This sums up how these people don’t acknowledge the harm they cause others. They deflect and project. ⁠

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We owe it to ourselves to be resilient and practise self-care, self-love, and self-respect. We need to show our child/ren the way to behave – not like the alienating parent. Remember: Everything will be right in the end. If it is not right, it is not the end.⁠

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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