Being the Mirror

Sometimes the love you gave becomes the lesson they needed—but the loss you took.

You did everything right.
You were soft.
You were safe.
You were all the things they claimed they never had.

And still—
they left.
Or worse,
they stayed just long enough to break you.

Because not everyone who finds a good thing
knows how to keep it.
Not everyone who receives love
knows how to hold it without crushing it.

You showed them patience.
They mistook it for permission.
You gave grace.
They called it weakness.

And now you’re the one sitting with silence,
questioning your worth,
when the truth is—
you were never the problem.

You were the mirror.
The wake-up call.
The one that made them realize what love could look like—
just not what they were ready for.

And maybe they’ll change.
Maybe one day, they’ll look back
and understand what they had in you.

But by then,
you’ll be long gone.
Because healing taught you something important:

You don’t have to be the lesson in someone else’s story
just to prove you’re lovable in your own.😘

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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