Used/Abused by Narcissist

STRANGE BUT TRUTH đź’”

You didn’t lose the love of your life; you broke free from the chains of a predator who drained your joy, strength, and identity.

A narcissist isn’t your soul mate—they’re a master manipulator hiding behind a carefully crafted mask. The person you see at the end of the relationship, the one who discarded you without empathy, is who they’ve been all along.

Their charm, their “magic,” their love-bombing—all of it was a performance. False promises and shallow words disguised their real agenda: to control, exploit, and feed off your emotional energy while breaking down your confidence.

What you endured wasn’t love—it was a calculated game of power. Gaslighting, criticism, and emotional manipulation weren’t acts of affection but weapons used to keep you doubting yourself. Their betrayals weren’t mistakes; they were deliberate moves to hold you captive in their cycle of abuse.

But here’s the powerful truth: You didn’t lose a family member—you escaped a nightmare.

Walking away from that toxic cycle took unimaginable strength. Breaking free from someone who pretends to love but thrives on control isn’t easy, but you did it. And now, you’re standing in the light of freedom, no longer bound to their lies.

Healing begins when you accept this: you weren’t loved, you were used. But that does not define your worth or your future.

You were created for real love, genuine connection, and a life filled with joy, authenticity, and peace.

You are worthy of being truly seen, deeply heard, and genuinely valued. Never settle for less than the love and respect you deserve. Real love isn’t a game or manipulation—it’s kind, patient, and true.

As you heal, remember this:

You’ve reclaimed your life, and the right people, the right love, and the right future are waiting for you.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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