Our child is alive, but the other parent has severed, damaged, and wilfully blocked the emotional bond and connection that once existed. This loss is unjustified, ongoing and unresolved, leading to intense grief and mourning. It is isolating, too, especially as so many deny, minimise or misunderstand what we’re going through.
The unresolved loss stems from our longing for our previous relationship with our child, shared experiences, and love. I cannot tell you how many people say, ‘We used to be so close’ or ‘I did all I could to keep them close to their other parent’, and I have been in this situation myself. This unresolved loss also involves the dimming of hopes, dreams, and expectations of a nurturing and loving parent-child relationship. We grieve the loss of daily interactions, milestones, and the ability to be a meaningful presence in our child’s life.
Like bereavement, the grieving process for rejected and alienated parents may involve a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. However, unlike traditional bereavement, where closure can be reached through acceptance and adjustment to the loss, the unresolved loss experienced by alienated parents can persist indefinitely as we continue to hope for reconciliation and the restoration of our relationship with our child.
Acknowledging and addressing this unresolved loss is crucial for healing and finding some sense of peace. Finding a way to stay strong and find joy in our lives is so important too.
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