Grief

No Matter What They Say

You do not have to get over it.

You will carry your grief

and be carried by loss

in any way the carrying happens.

As if you had a choice.

Grief builds rooms inside you

no one else will ever see,

rooms with doors

only you can pass through

filled with songs or silence

only you can hear.

Rest here. Or dance here.

Shout. Or whisper. Rise

like milkweed seeds on the wind.

Or lie. Here, you can only do it right.

Here, there are no other eyes

or ears to tell you what to do

or how long it will take

or what choices to make.

And if you are weeping, weep.

And if you are dry, you are dry.

The rest of the world

can talk about stages

of grief and how it should be,

but you, you do not have to listen.

~ Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

[Image: Sarah Treanor]

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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